Please not again

[shrimpman steve]

I know it's not fishing but I'm up in buffalo with dad and he is not doing well. He took a fall and fractured a vertebrae and is now having severe hallucinations. Has lost a lot of muscle and is just doing very poorly. I'm not ready to go thru this again. I pray he has the strength to recover. My dad is a very proud man and not handling this well.

Please send good vibes towards buffalo.

[Pennsy Guy]

Prayers sent--hope for a quick recovery. I feel for you, Steve...

[dales529]

Sorry to hear. Best of luck for a speedy recovery.

[waynedane]

Godspeed Steve for your pop...

[RAMMFISH66]

Here is hoping for your dads speedy recovery, Rammie

[shrimpman steve]

I was prepared for a late night call about his heart or a stroke but I am not prepared for the demensia and hallucinations. It is very hard to see. One minute he's with me, the next he is off somewhere else. Very disconcerting.

[MVP]

Steve
My prayers go out to you and your family. Try to keep your Dads attitude positive. It is amazing what the body can do when you focus on the positive and not dwell on the negatives.

[njfisherman1975]

Sorry to hear this Steve...

[Blackfish Doug]

Sorry to hear this Steve I hope that there's a turn around for you. The way I used to handle this with my mom was I would bring up something that she would repeatedly would always talk about. As much as I could care less about that it always seemed to work for me. It seemed to get her out of that mind frame & have a little bit of normalcy even if it was temporary but it worked for me.

[DirtyChimneyMan]

Love ya my brother. Call me if you need anything

[hartattack]

Prayers sent, stay strong Steve . . .

[John D.]

Steve,

Was your dad having memory,or dementia issues before the fall? Dementia usually doesn't come out nowhere. And if he is still in the hospital or some care of care facility, there is a medical phenomenon called "twilighting" where the elderly, even with no history or diagnosis of dementia, become very disoriented even hallunengetic, because of being in a hospital or treatment setting for more than 24 hours. I saw this with my dad and was scary stuff, but it passes in a few days.

John

[shrimpman steve]

Very ugly day the man I saw today was mean, nasty and abusive. That man was not my father. When I disagreed to help him up (fractured back) and take him home he said things to me he has never said before. I know not to take it to heart, but it hurts none the less. This is not the man who raised me. I am at a loss. He is scared angry and mean. I pray for my fathers return

[dakota560]

Watching a parent or worse a sibling or God forbid a child struggle with health issues tops the list of life's greatest challenges. Unfortunately most of us if not all of us will experience some version of this in our lifetime. The best we can hope is there's not prolonged suffering for the person afflicted, their immediate family and friends. Stay strong for your dad, his actions while ill will never tarnish the love and memories you've experienced with him throughout your lifetime. Nothing will ever change that and you should find strength in that while looking over him. The ones who feel what you're feeling are the people who grew up in a GREAT family environment, my heart goes out to those who don't experience the sadness and conflict you're feeling right now. Your heart is in the right place as is your dad's, you should feel nothing but euphoria that you had that relationship with your father throughout your life. NEVER take that for granted. Hang in there, I'll keep you and your dad in my prayers.

[TomKaye]

Quote; "The ones who feel what you're feeling are the people who grew up in a GREAT family environment, my heart goes out to those who don't experience the sadness and conflict you're feeling right now."

Very profound & truthful statement there Dakota.
My heart goes out to you as well Steve. The temporary abusiveness, contrary to your Dad's nature, will pass as his meds continue to kick in. Have been there with my parents. My thoughts and prayers will continue to be with you and your Dad. May God watch over you both. Be well.

[Joey Dah Fish]

Prayers sent brother

[hammer4reel]

Prayers sent for a quick recovery

[butcher boy don]

My prayers are with your dad and yourself.met you a few times over the years on the star with Tom out of the a h.be strong bro and remember god doesn't give us more than we can handle...although it don't always feel that way.hang in.

[SaltLife1980]

Sorry to hear Steve. I hope all gets well

[Down Deep Sportfishing]

Hang tough Steve this isn't easy. We are all with you in spirt. Remember all positive things for the both of you. Prayers sent.

[shrimpman steve]

Diagnoses not good. Late stage demensia. My heart is breaking

[bunker dunker]

pray for strength my friend and I will pray for you both.

[dales529]

Its a tough time of life for peeps our age Steve. This is what happens and the circle of life. Been there and saying that doesn't make it any easier so please don't take it that way. Sorry you are going through it and Hoping for the best.

[Gerry Zagorski]

Hang in there Shrimpy... Thoughts and prayer to you and the family.

[MVP]

Sorry to hear the news. Been dealing with Dementia/Alzhimers with my Dad for the past 5 years or so. Physically he is OK but mind is shot and progressivly getting worse even with Meds as they are suppose to slow progression but does not really seem to work. It is very hard dealing with that disease

Prayers are with you

[shrimpman steve]

Alex
I feel for you. This has been tough. It is very hard to watch.
Prayers to you as well my friend

[Boston Pete]

That sucks, sending positive thoughts & prayers your way Steve.
So sorry.

One of my worst nightmares.

[shrimpman steve]

Thank you guys, all of you. Unfortunately or fortunately his body is giving you now. Complications from the illness. It will be days and he will be gone. This will leave a huge hole in my heart and in my life. But he will go into that goodnight peacefully thanks to hospices care. My heart will break any day now. A day I have feared all my life. How will I live without my father. I will live the rest of my life thanking him for his support to finally do what I was meant to due. I am due to receive my 100 ton master captains license. It would still be just a dream without the positive support and constant encouragement from my dad, my mom, Norma . And of coarse my family. I love you all and I know we will all miss him for the rest of our lives

[hartattack]

Heart-felt sympathy Steve. Stay strong, like Dad taught you.

[Gerry Zagorski]

So sorry to hear this Steve... Thoughts and prayers coming your way.

[Walleyed]

Steve,

I have nothing but empathy for you, I know the pain you're feeling. I lost my own father this past February to the same disease after 5+ years of watching him slowly disappear.

All I can say is concentrate on the memories and talk to people. I was amazed at some of the stories I heard from his friends during the wake.

be at peace,

Jim

[shrimpman steve]

Well there will be no long suffering for my dad, or for anyone who loved him. as today he left us to go to whatever is next.

[fin_s_guy]

Condolences Steve. Been down that road and it's rough. Good memories make it tolerable.

[NJ Dave]

So sorry for your loss Steve. You have had a tuff few years with the parents. It's never easy.

[bunker dunker]

sorry for your loss Steve.never an easy thing.pray and remember the good.

[kcritch]

Prayers and condolences to you and your family Steve. God will give you the strength...always does for those that need it...even though it may not seem like it now. God Bless.

[hammer4reel]

Prayers sent Steve.
very sorry for your loss.


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[Pennsy Guy]

So sorry to here this--prayers sent to you and family--It's never easy losing a parent.

[shrimpman steve]

Up in buffalo for dads service. Gonna be a tough couple of days.

[SaltLife1980]

So Sorry Steve.

[TomKaye]

Sorry for your loss. Thoughts & prayers w/ you & your family.

[shrimpman steve]

I would like to thank all of you who have sent condolences and prayers. I may no longer be local but I will forever consider you all good friends.

THANK YOU

[Art Berkman]

So sorry for your Loss! My condolences

[dfish28]

So sorry to hear Steve, condolences from my family to yours.

[MVP]

Will be praying for you and your family

[Foul Hook]

Sorry to hear the bad news. My condolences.

[shrimpman steve]

Today we buried my dad. He was my mentor, my friend, and now my guardian angel. He was a great man who touched many lives. He will be sorely missed.

Fair winds and following seas pop. I will always love you.

[bunker dunker]

Amen

[Jay]

My deepest sympathies to you and your family. Sorry for your loss. May your Dad rest easy!

[tycomps]

Went thru a similar situation the last few years, dad finally left in February. He taught me to fish 50 years ago and spent every trip making sure I was having fun, his catches were always secondary. Every time I wet a line he's with me and always will be. My condolences.

[shrimpman steve]

Thanks again!